Affair-seekers are holding out for a vaccine (Picture: Getty)
Having affair might be logistically tricky at the best of times – but during a pandemic, there are a whole new set of considerations.
With the obvious problem of not being able to meet anyone outside of your household, many affair-seekers are now holding out for the vaccine.
Katherine, 50, is from Lancaster and has been using a dating site aimed at those wanting an affair for two years.
After divorcing she found single men were too needy, preferring to go for married men who didn’t want any further commitment.
Katherine wants to share her experience as a ‘mature single person’. She’s looking for a ‘spark’ with someone and wants to meet in places like a pub to see if there’s a connection with any potential matches.
For her not having the vaccine is a ‘barrier’ and going for socially distanced walks isn’t enough.
She isn’t alone. Dating site for married people IllicitEncounters.com found that 65% of their 1,500 survey respondents want to get the vaccine for the main purpose of having an affair.
82% of married affair-seekers say their relationship with their spouse has suffered during the pandemic.
When quizzed on how many broke lockdown rules in the first and second lockdown, 61% said they had compared to 30% in the third national lockdown. There’s clearly been a shift in perspective.
Katherine told Metro.co.uk: ‘The sooner you meet the better because then you know there’s a spark there between you and unfortunately with the last couple of guys I’ve met, I’ve not felt that.’
She isn’t seeing anyone during the third lockdown, but previously she has met people she found online, focusing on bubbling up to ensure it was within the rules.
During the second lockdown she formed a bubble with a married man and in the summer, when restrictions loosened, she dated married men without sex being part of the deal.
She says: ‘Because I live alone, I was able to able to meet up with a married man and have sex as part of his support bubble, meaning we weren’t breaking any rules. The support bubble initiative meant we could have an affair safely.
‘Unfortunately we had to stop dating when his wife became suspicious of him spending so much time doing “exercise” outdoors.
‘I’ve not been able to find anyone else to have an affair with since, as everyone is awaiting their vaccines first.’
Now she’s feeling ‘hopeless and alone’, saying she’s ‘desperate’ to get the vaccine so that her extra-marital sex life can recommence.
‘I’m desperate to get the covid vaccine so that I can go out and enjoy myself again,’ she said.
‘I love the excitement and spontaneity of an affair, it’s a thrill. It’s still meaningful sex, but without all the relationship baggage.
‘I’m not looking for a second husband, I just want to have no-strings fun, but everybody is too scared of the virus to meet. Those that aren’t scared have wives who are keeping tabs on their whereabouts,’ she added.
Telling Metro.co.uk more, she says: ‘I have spoken to a couple of guys who’ve felt [anxious about spreading covid-19 to their families]. With one of them, the mother-in-law lived quite near and they were seeing her too and he wanted to keep his bubble and not cause any problems.’
For Katherine – who has diabetes – getting the vaccine would be enough for her sense of safety.
‘I’d feel protected in myself,’ she explains. ‘I do what I think is responsible and that’s down to the next person to do what they think.’
Sex and relationships expert Jessica Leoni says: ‘Relationships have taken a beating since all the lockdowns and restrictions have come into force due to covid.
‘Many of [the site’s] members feel the pressure of married life has been amplified due to the pandemic, and are desperate to escape and enjoy some adult fun with like-minded people.
‘With vaccines underway, it appears many people wish to hold out before meeting.’