It’s like the same soul meeting from two different bodies (Picture: Shutterstock/Getty
Most of are focused on meeting our soulmate, joining our lives with someone who just ‘gets’ us – and we get them in return.
Imagine that, but on an even deeper level; finding someone whose energy, personality, and soul matches yours completely. This is a twin flame.
This doesn’t need to be a romantic connection – they can be platonic. What sets a twin flame apart from a soulmate is that you have an electric relationship with them, and knowing them could change your lift.
Twin flames as a concept came about in the 1960s (although you can find reference to twin flames as far back as Dante’s Inferno), mostly in the religious writings of Elizabeth Clare Prophet in her work Soul Mates And Twin Flames: The Spiritual Dimension of Love and Relationships.
Over time, the usage of the term has changed to make it almost opposable with soulmates, but it still holds those spiritual connotations that set it apart and make finding our twin flame such an attractive prospect.
It’s typically spiritual ‘gurus’ and guides that speak about twin flames, which might put you off if you’re not into that world. However, it’s an experience many of us (skeptical or otherwise) can relate to when it’s described.
What is a twin flame?
A twin flame is someone with whom you have an intense soul connection with – and they feel the exact same about you.
They may come in the form of a friend or teacher rather than a romantic partner.
Twin flames feel like they ‘complete’ each other, uniting the divine feminine and masculine energies we all possess (regardless of gender).
The idea is that twin flames are one soul in two separate bodies, and when they come together they’re able to help each other work through problems and grow as people.
Their acceptance of each other and almost automatic bond means things between twin flames can go very fast very quickly, with some twin flame relationships fizzling out once they’ve taught each other what they need to know.
In some cases, a twin flame relationship can become toxic, as they mirror the traits in you you fear the most. Without nurturing that and working through it, there could be conflict.
Finding your twin flame is said to be a once in a lifetime experience – and not everybody will meet their twin flame – that will stay with you for the rest of your life.
How do I tell if I’ve met my twin flame?
Most people who’ve met their twin flame describe it as some form of ‘love at first sight’ (even if you’re not attracted to them like that).
Instantly, you’ll feel like you’re at home with them, and have known them all your life. As you chat more, you should find that there are a lot of similarities in your interests and even past experiences.
You should feel this connection reciprocated, and you’ll be receiving signals from the other person that they also feel the bond. You will both be almost magnetically attracted to each other (not necessarily in a sexual sense) and bounce off each other in social situations.
Overall, you’ll know you’ve met your twin flame because it feels like you were brought together – like it was meant to be. You’re so highly attuned to each other that you naturally push each other to heal and grow.
What are sex and relationships like with a twin flame?
In a word, tumultuous. If you’re having sex with your twin flame, you’ll probably find that you can’t keep your hands off each other.
You might find this feels like the best sex you’ve ever had, with your shared intuition of each others needs making for an intimate and wholly satisfying experience.
It really feels spiritual, and you may find that you’re having sex more that you have in the past because of your immense attraction.
In a relationship, it all depends on how you deal with issues and conflict. There’s no doubt that you’ll have a lot to work through, as twin flames are supposed to help heal old wounds.
On/off relationships are common with twin flames (although something always draws you both bath) and you may find that it’s too intense to continue in a romantic sense as a pair.
However, if you understand that you’re both going through similar changes and that you have the same destination of happiness, you can work through things as a couple or remain friends and help each other in a different way.
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