WHEN lockdown two was introduced, Christina Baxter instantly knew it will be totally different to the primary one – in a great way.
In March, the 28-year-old mum-of-one determined to lockdown along with her ex Ahmead Yakubu, 31, one thing they each started to remorse virtually immediately.
Christina Baxter’s ex Ahmead Yakubu moved in along with her throughout lockdown to assist take care of their daughter Kiki, 4Credit score: Equipped
Ahmead insists he was the mannequin visitor, travelling to Cheshire to London to assist take care of the couple’s little woman Kiki, 4, whereas Christina labored.
His job in theatre had dried up due to coronavirus restrictions so it appeared like the right reply… but it surely become a whole nightmare.
Christina claims he was a complete sofa potato, sleeping on her couch till all hours, ditching Kiki’s schedule and laughing at any time when she received aggravated.
Right here she talks to Fabulous concerning the hell of locking down with an ex, and why she would NEVER do it once more…
The couple had a daughter collectively and have been co-parenting since they broke up Credit score: Equipped
“When Ahmead and I break up in January 2017 we vowed to be good co-parents and put Kiki first.
We’d been collectively 4 years and issues simply got here to a pure finish, but it surely was a large reduction for us each to be residing aside.
However then lockdown occurred, Kiki’s nursery shut and my mum needed to self-isolate.
I used to be freaking out about childcare as a result of I work shifts and typically don’t end till 10pm.
In my fragile state, inviting Ahmead to come back to stick with us appeared like a good suggestion.
They have been collectively for 4 years earlier than they break up in 2017Credit score: Equipped
I couldn’t have been extra fallacious, the entire thing become a residing nightmare.
It solely took per week for me to recollect precisely why we’d damaged up – Ahmead is egocentric and lazy.
To start out with, I solely have two bedrooms. It means Ahmead needed to sleep on the couch – tremendous if he tidied it up every morning.
However he didn’t, and he typically didn’t rise up within the morning both.
Even worse he arrived with mountains of baggage, garments and mess which he unfold all throughout my superbly clear front room making it appear like some sort of squat.
Christina and Kiki cleansing up after AhmeadCredit score: Equipped
Ahmead slept on the couch whereas he stayed there as there have been solely two rooms in the homeCredit score: Equipped
After per week his garments have been scattered all over the place and once I requested him to tidy them he was all the time too busy chatting to his mates on the telephone.
It stank of his aftershave on a regular basis too – I used to find it irresistible, now I detest it.
Nevertheless it was nothing in comparison with the stink of his outdated sheets and sweaty socks.
It’s additionally vital to me that Kiki sticks to a schedule, however Ahmead doesn’t even appear to know what one is.
I’d come dwelling from work late at evening and he or she’d nonetheless be awake. It left me fuming.
So then I attempted setting guidelines to see if that helped – I advised him to verify she ate and slept on time and to scrub and tidy the home.
I’d as nicely have been speaking to myself.
Christina mentioned Kiki would nonetheless be awake late at evening when she’d get dwelling kind work as Ahmead did not persist with a schedule Credit score: Equipped
Christina likes to maintain a ‘spotless Mrs Hinch’ dwellingCredit score: Equipped
By week two I realised the cleansing lists, procuring and routine for Kiki I’d left on the desk every morning have been being ignored.
It spiralled into hell on earth, I rapidly went from a relaxing single mum to a nagging Mrs Moaner.
I’m a clear freak and all the things has its place in my home. I like Mrs Hinch.
I clear for as much as three hours a day, and when Covid first hit I used to be scrubbing and disinfecting for as much as 10 hours of my time off.
Protected to say, Ahmead doesn’t really feel this manner.
Christina says she’s a clear freak who loves Mrs Hinch and all the things has its place Credit score: Equipped
So I’d be disinfecting the lounge with my mop and bucket and he’d name me freak. I’d find yourself storming to my room and we’d cease speaking for days.
I prefer to be up early on my days off however he’s an evening owl, and that brought on issues too.
Regardless of me telling him he to be up, with the bedding put away, by 8am he’d nonetheless be loud night breathing at 10am.
He’d watch movies consistently too so I couldn’t get close to the telly, if ever I attempted to he’d simply change the channel again.
He’d sit round in his PJ shorts all day lengthy, taking part in Sweet Crush and texting his pals. If I ever hear the bing of his telephone once more as a message is available in…
She mentioned he made a large number of her place and was extremely lazy Credit score: Equipped
Christina mentioned Ahmead would go away the toilet in a large number each time he used itCredit score: Equipped
I even tried bringing laundry into the lounge and folding in whereas I watched the telly, however he flipped the channel over and ignored me.
The toilet was one other battleground. He’d depart moist towels all over the place, the john seat was all the time up and he stank the entire place out.
The stink would comply with him round too, in the long run I’d spritz him with fragrance from a mini bottle I carried round.
Generally I couldn’t use it for an hour after he’d been in there.
He was in right here for ages too, I can do my entire look – bathe, make-up and hair – in half-hour however he appeared to want hours.
What Ahmead says:
“Christina and I attempted to make it work as a pair and I attempted to assist out in lockdown.
Kiki is the centre of my world.
I believed I used to be extremely useful.
I feel Christina demanded loads and in spite of everything she is best at these family chores.
A person wants respect and house.
We do get on one another’s nerves and as exes we like distance.”
Christina was consistently cleansing up after her exCredit score: Equipped
Don’t even get me began on his chewing both – I swear it by no means was once so loud. I discussed it to him in the future and he simply began at me and munched much more nosily.
I began to really feel like his slave. Nevertheless it was my very own fault, I used to be too good to him at first and handled him like a visitor as an alternative of somebody there to assist me.
In the long run my days have been all about work, tidying at dwelling and flicking him the Christina Demise Stare – not that it labored, he simply laughed it off which made me even angrier.
The person has a thick conceal.
Nothing will get to him, he’s brazen and I used to like his capability to disregard folks’s feedback – not a lot when it got here to lockdown collectively.
It was like a type of torture, in the long run you can reduce the environment with a knife.
This time round he’s staying in London.
I’m not having him again throughout quarantine two, not even for one million kilos
You must be a really particular one who can survive isolation with an ex, and for everybody’s security we is not going to be having spherical two.