THEY say a dream is a wish your heart makes — but is that really true?
We told this week how 36 per cent of couples admit to dreaming about having sex with someone else.
More than a third of couples admit to dreaming about having sex with someone elseCredit: Shutterstock
But dream psychologist Ian Wallace says our night-time fantasies tell us more about our inner desires than what we want in the bedroom.
He said: “Sex dreams normally have nothing to do with real sex. What sex dreams are all about is what sex means to us, it’s about something that’s really intense and intimate.
“The main function of dreaming is to process unresolved emotions.”
From sex with an ex to orgies, dream expert Ian explains what’s really going on between the sheets . . .
Dream psychologist Ian Wallace says our fantasies tell us more about our inner desires than what we want in the bedroom
Dreaming of your boss means you admire some of their qualitiesCredit: Shutterstock
A LOT of people cringe when they relay this dream to me.
This is linked to an admiration for the qualities your boss has and how you can use these attributes in your own life.
If you have a boss who gets things done, perhaps you need to be more assertive.
If you are imagining you can’t perform sexually, you could be holding something back Credit: Shutterstock
IMAGINING you can’t perform sexually means something is holding you back.
Perhaps someone is standing in the way of a hobby or career.
Figure out how to deal with this blockage, whether that’s getting someone onside or putting in place a boundary.
Dreaming about doing it in public is a sign that you’re feeling exposedCredit: Shutterstock
THIS dream normally happens when something in your real life is putting you to the test.
It might be stepping up in a new job or being publicly judged for your talents.
If you’ve put in a lot of hard work to get where you are now, trust your creativity and expertise will flow.
When you dream of your ex, your consciousness is trying to tell you something about who you want to be Credit: Getty
AFTER this dream people want to know if they should rekindle an old flame.
But it’s your consciousness telling you something about who you want to be.
What qualities do you most associate with your ex?
Choose which you want to be less or more of.
Dreaming about your partner cheating is more common than you thinkCredit: Getty
A COMMON dream.
But this is not always about our partner, rather our hopes and desires.
It tells you that you are not fulfilling your ambitions.
Maybe you feel you could devote more to a hobby or your career but are held back by something.
Fantasising about an orgy means you need to put yourself out thereCredit: Shutterstock
FANTASISING about an orgy is not unusual — especially for men.
It tells us about private passion that we could be afraid to reveal.
For example, you may be an excellent painter but fear showing your work.
If you did so, family and friends would support you.
Dreaming about celebrities is your brain’s way of flagging up an unused skill you haveCredit: Getty
DREAMING of intimacy with a celebrity is your brain flagging up an unused skill you have.
If you fantasise about a singer, this may not mean you too will become one.
It may mean you are good at vocalising feelings and ought to focus on that.
If you dream about cheating on your partner, you probably feel like you are letting others downCredit: Getty
IF you dream about sleeping with someone else, quite often this has nothing to do with your partner in waking life.
Do you feel like you are not dependable or you are letting someone down?
Could you do more to help your family or lay down the law with a pal?
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